Scripture Reading: Proverbs 14:8
The wisdom of the prudent is to give thought to their ways,
but the folly of fools is deception.
As I consider our scripture verse today, I find Webster’s definition of the word prudent helpful: “shrewd in the management of practical affairs.” If we are going to appreciate the differences between husbands and wives, we must be shrewd! We must give thought to our “ways!” If I don’t understand myself, my wife has little chance of understanding me! All of us who desire healthy relationships, must give considerable thought to our own ways! A good marriage has individuals in it who have, first, focused on themselves before trying to analyze their spouses!
As stated in yesterday’s devotional, the first issue is in understanding. Most of us need some assistance in truly understanding ourselves. A good friend, a personality profile and/or a good Christian counselor may be needed to “give thought to our ways!” I offer a profile test entitled, “Please Understand Me.” I’m sure it is not as detailed as many other profiles, but it serves the purpose for most people. These profiles can help us to understand, as well as verbalize our inner thoughts. Once our spouse receives this information, they then have the chance to appreciate, rather than fight, our differences.
To get started, ask your spouse – if you don’t already know, what baffles them most about the way you operate your life. Give some time and thought to the “whys” of that behavior. It would be best if you put your thoughts on paper. Read and revise as necessary before giving them your answer. The difference probably won’t “go away,” but good understanding, indeed, “wins favor” as Proverbs 13:15 states.
Father, as I give ‘thought’ to my ways – I’ll need your wisdom to understand myself! Thanks for your promised provisions for my every need. I ask this in Jesus’ Name, amen.