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A Bad Marriage, Gone Good

Couples must commit to learning new ways to share their feelings… Christ-like ways!

Stretched but Not Broken
Unwholesome Talk

Scripture Reading: Ephesians 4:29

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

I like Webster’s definition of the word “wholesome.” It states: “wholesome – producing good effect, physically or morally.” When I speak “wholesome” words to my spouse, it will produce a good effect, physically or morally. If I speak unwholesome words, it’s obvious that they will produce a bad effect physically or morally! Our scripture today challenges us to not let any unwholesome talk come out of our mouths. That is a tall order and will take God’s grace working powerfully in us!

Most of us know by now the importance of communication in a marriage. Maybe the kind of communication has not been stressed enough! The Bible tells us to “speak the truth in love!” To turn a bad marriage into a good one, it will take more than simply “talking and communicating.” A good marriage develops out of “kind and wholesome” communication. Couples must commit to learning new ways to share their feelings…Christ-like ways! What is being “produced” because of your words? If it is a positive, good effect…you are a “wholesome” talker! But if your words produce negative and hurtful effects…you are an “unwholesome” talker! It is true that most people do a little of both, but our goal is to eliminate all the unwholesome stuff!

God wants to help us with this worthy goal. Listen to the apostle Paul’s words in Ephesians 4:23: “to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.”

Father, in my own strength, I cannot control my words, especially when I am angry. I believe in your power and ask that you work in me today! In Jesus’ Name, amen.